Taken for Granted

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I’ve been pondering the term “taken for granted” lately. There are so many things in my life I always thought I would be able to rely on that have rapidly turned into things that are quickly evaporating. Those things I thought I could always count on, are turning into massive uncertainties. I know that a big part of that is just seasonality and part of the typical business cycle, part of it for me has been related to trying to delegate responsibilities and free myself from time consuming tasks that distract me from pursuing other interests. All of those lately has led me to profound conclusion that I am counting on things that really are not guaranteed or owed to me. I’ve been taking them for granted. I’ve been expecting things to work without really understanding what the underlying key factors that drive them are or fulling engaging myself in doing the work to ensure the deck is stacked in my favor as much as I possibly can.  Continue reading

Just tell me what to do!

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There is no right answer.

Throughout my life I have spent a tremendous amount of time trying to understand the right answer for any given situation or circumstance when I needed to make a decision. I have spent a lot of time trying to decipher what the right answer is in a lot of those situations and found that there is a fundamental flaw in that question. It assumes there actually is a right answer to any situation. From my experience, except when it comes to decisions with a clear moral implication, there is rarely a single right answer. For me, it has typically been a spectrum of right. Not necessarily that there is anything wrong with one decision or the other, just that each one has different outcomes that will logically result.  Continue reading

The Silver Bullet

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I hear so many great ideas and methods for success. They are from a variety of sources and have an even wider variety of application. It’s seems that most of the advice about how to manage time, resources, people, difficulties, challenges, setbacks, and any of the day-to-day challenges are presented from more of a ‘reflective’ position. Specifically, very few people write about those challenges in the moment and really display the full range of emotion, internal conflict, and real depth of the struggles. That seems to be the only part that really matters. Once an idea is distilled, reflected, or otherwise summarized to have the largest possible application, it can leave the reader somewhat confused regarding if or how the advice, technique or model really applies to their situation. It also seems to me that these ideas are typically presented as a singular action or focus that will impact and shape a person’s context or reality and create the results they desire. There is no silver bullet that works every time. Not there, doesn’t exist. The reality is that most of these topics really are different presentations of the same core theory or idea. The difficulty for most people is not in theory or method, the core difficulty for myself and the people I know is application. How do I apply this idea to my situation? Does this idea or technique actually apply to my situation? Continue reading

Focus

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My life is so full of demands for my time. Employees need direction, my wife and kids deserve my attention and time, my tasks require time, my hobbies and interests are only developed with time, and there are still emails to attend to. There is no shortage of things to do and the older I get, the more demands I have on my time.  Continue reading

What does Healthy leadership look like?

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As my personal responsibilities have grown and I have moved further into leadership roles in my family and at work I have been working to get a better understanding of what good leadership looks like. There are a number of methods I have encountered from a variety of people over the years. One commonality I have noticed is that each person has a different style and philosophy (some very thoughtful and formulated and some less theoretical and more practical) and that each leader has found some key points, habits, techniques, or whatever you want to call them that work for them.

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Life Expectations

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Here it is again… That gut wrenching frustration and feeling of being stuck dealing with the same problems over and over again is so completely exhausting and depressing. You know what I mean! It’s that feeling that everyone is out to get you and that you have to work so hard only to gain such little ground. It always leaves me with the exhausted sense of despair and the lingering question: Why is life always so hard on me? Continue reading

A New Year, A New Me…

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I find myself in yet another season of self discovery. This seems to go in 3-5 year waves and on the one hand is very discouraging and annoying. On the other hand, I feel quite fortunate to have such a multitude of opportunities to choose from on my horizon and I am thankful that I even have the time and possibility to make some core evaluations about what I really want to be in life and where I want to go.

It is always encouraging for me to look through my goals and the progress, or lack of progress, toward those goals. Some I have far exceeded, some I have not made any substantial progress worth noting, and others I have abandoned all together. Reviewing them periodically is quite encouraging from the perspective of remembering the previous season of live and starting to look toward my next horizon. It serves to close a chapter in a sense.

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Gifts & Talents

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Jon was a drummer that I got to know through the band and singles group at my church. Getting to know Jon was also the first time that I specifically recall beginning to see the distinction between gifts and talents. I got to know Jon at a weekend youth camp where we played together in the band. After the evening events, Jon and I spent some time trading guitar licks and showing each other some stuff that we had made up. Jon had only recently picked up the guitar, having always played drums in the past, and I remember being amazed at the way he played the guitar. There was just something captivating about every aspect of his style. Part of it was the way he approached the instrument and handled it. Part of it was his comfort level in playing things that are not ‘supposed’ to sound good, at least when it comes to structured music theory. The most intriguing though was just how naturally the music seemed to flow out of him through the guitar. It was truly amazing! Continue reading